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Bring Out The Best
My daughter got a Cashapp money from a friend and since her Cashapp account is tied with mine as she is under 18, I saw the notification.
The memo on the notification said “F…you!”
Well! I freaked out! I was in shock!
Did my daughter have a quarrel with her friend who sent the money? Did my daughter owe the girl or probably the girl owed her money? Why the language?
I texted my daughter immediately as she was at school. I asked why her friend used such a language on her to send her a Cashapp money.
My daughter responded that the Cashapp money sent by her friend was a birthday gift and it was nothing else.
So this brought up a very long discussion at a later time.
This friend was only giving her a birthday gift and used the language “f… you” because that is what she normally says to my daughter. My daughter has accepted this language as normal and sees nothing wrong in it.
My daughter says that this language “ f.. you” is what everybody her age says so there is nothing wrong with the language her friend used on her.
After some discussion with my daughter who wanted to convince me “f … you” was appropriate, I realized she, my daughter had been bullied at school and called derogatory names. She started to cry.
I had to educate my daughter.
Being bullied is not acceptable. Using derogatory words or language on another person is not acceptable.
Whether you are a child, youth, teenager or an adult, using a derogatory word or language on another person is inhuman. It is demeaning and devaluing the worth of that person.
Parents, teach your children not to accept derogatory language used on them by their friends. If you do not teach your children this, they grow to believe derogatory language used on others is acceptable. This eventually affects their self esteem growing up and later in their life.
Teach your children to report any bullying to their teachers or counselors at school and most importantly, to you their parents.
Teach your children that if such an attitude of bullying, or calling another derogatory names persists despite them calling attention to it, such a friendship or relationship is not healthy but toxic and has to be discontinued.
A friendship that does not bring out the best in you but puts you down is not healthy.
Colossians 4:6 says
“…..Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out.”
Colossians 4:5-6 MSG
BENEATH ANGER
Out of anger erupts a need to be heard, a hurt, neglect.
The anger is just a way to express the feelings because the better alternative way to express these feelings is not validated.
If you are hurt today, know that God loves you and is with you always.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.”
Psalms 34:18 NLT
“A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.”
Proverbs 15:1 NLT
An Opportunity Once Lost
I am not sure about you but I have some situations in my life I wish I can turn back but … they are gone.
The clock ticks, the time passes, the years go by and every moment counts.
Take that exam, go for that interview, visit that person, give that gift, encourage that person, take care of your parents, help that person, say ‘ I am sorry’, say ‘ I love you’.
We should make the most of every opportunity we have. Especially in relationships with one another.
Give that advice, encourage that person.
When you have the opportunity to show love to someone, show it. When you have the opportunity to say I love you, do so. When you have the opportunity to fight for what you love the most, do so.
When you have the oportunity to speak out or speak up about those burning matters inside of you, do so.
Time does not wait for any one and you might never have that opportunity again.
Tell your parents, “ I love you and I appreciate all you have done for me.”
Love and take care of your parents while they are alive and you have the chance to. When your parents are gone that opportunity to love on and appreciate them is gone.
Take care of your siblings while you can. These are people from the same family as you, so you should shower love on them.
Tell your children you love them, be there for them and encourage them. You are their biggest fan.
Be a blessing to relatives in need, you might not have that opportunity again and an indelible mark is left with whoever is blessed by your generosity.
Tell that person you love him or her, no matter what. He or she probably needs to hear this from you.
Do not give up on challenges you might face when you have someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Do not be afraid either. Hold on to the person you love, trust God and God will definitely make it all worthwhile at the end of it all.
Hold on always to the promise of God that says “All things work together for good to those who love God and are called acording His purpose”.
Romans 8:28
Abundantly Blessed
“The generous will prosper; those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed.”
Proverbs 11:25 NLT
How to be Understanding
Alternative Dispute Resolution or Conflict Resolution might seem difficult but there are several ways to manage or resolve conflicts.
My E Book, “How to be understanding” gives an easy-to -read information on what conflict is and ways to have conflict resolved.
My Dad
I have not been able to write since 2021.
I am just having the courage to write. My dad passed in 2021. I have grieved him since then. I am crying as I write this. But I want to write now to remember who my dad was.
I am his only daughter out of seven of us; three of us from my mom.
I miss my dad everyday. Even though, I’m married with three kids.
My dad, Professor Olumuyiwa Akinade Sanda was well respected in the community. He loved education. He loved to read. He wrote and authored many books. He loved his country Nigeria and his hometown, Ibadan. He served his people in Nigeria, in the city of Ibadan and even in the rural Alegongo where he was from.
He was kind to his people to a fault.
I will forever be grateful to him for his love for me. For how he brought myself and my brothers up to be disciplined.
He was not perfect at home but he gave his best to us his children. He sacrificed everything to make sure we his children got the best in life. I am in the United States of America all because of my dad. I will forever be grateful.
I wish I was with him when he passed. I was in the United States and he was in Nigeria.
I am glad despite his past mistakes, he found God. I believe he is with God.
I am praying that my dad’s legacy continues and is forever remembered.
Dinspirationsz 
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